WHO WILL STOP BAGGA MONSTERS?

Dear all, My name is Mariya and I would like to share with you how from 2014 - 2018 I was enrolled in a toxic and abusive relationships with Darshan Singh Bagga(Senior Manager, Corporate Treasury, Raymond Ltd.) who was that time married on Gurneet Kaur Gandhi, how our affair was supported by his sisters and mother Khushwant Kaur Bagga. And how Bagga family threw me out same way as they did with Gurneet.

I met Darshan Singh Bagga(son of Gulfam Singh Bagga) in 2014 in Mumbai, that time he was having a wife. During our first meeting, he was complaining on his unhappy life with wife, and added that because she is very bad he has found and spend time with a “special friend” (his Indian female friend with whom he meets time to time and have sex). On my question why can’t he talk to his wife and to sort out things instead of cheating on her, he said that he never loved wife and was married only because she is from rich family. 

After meeting me in Mumbai, Darshan Singh Bagga chasing me: he went to see me in Goa, in one months in Cambodia (where I worked), he traveled with me to Vietnam. He was calling me every day and telling me that he fell in love and want to be only with me. In addition he was giving me more and more stories how his wife is cruel and that I’m his pillar who is with him in all bad moments of life.

In October 2015, we were in Hong Kong, Darshan Singh Bagga said that I’m a woman he wants to be with in his life and he want to marry me. I was happy and was trying to do my best to keep him happy. It was not easy because his mood changed so fast, and different type of demands appeared. For example, he wanted to see my naked body every time we speak on video call. When he demanded that first time, I was shocked and embarrassed, but he said if I don’t do that he will cheat on me as he did on his wife (he said that his wife didn’t want to perform all his sexual desires, that’s why he was cheating on her). I was afraid that he find a new girl that’s why I switched camera in the shower, in bed to let him see me naked - his was doing handjob and got sexual pleasure from that, in addition he forced me to see him masturbating on camera, and sent me videos of him masturbating on camera.

In 2016 his sexual desires to see me naked on camera increased, whenever I rejected he said that he will break up with me cause I’m not fulfilling his sexual desires, same as his wife. I was afraid to loose him and agreed to do everything he wants. We had hidden relationships as he desired, if I say that I don’t like anything Darshan Singh Bagga got very angry screaming and again blackmailed to broke up. I adjusted myself to his mood, and the only thing that improved his mood was my naked body. That time I didn’t understand that he manipulates with my feelings, emotions, as well as that I was a victim of emotional and sexual abuse, that time I loved him so much that justified his behavior and attitude towards me by bad situation in his house. 

Over and over again Darshan Singh Bagga told me how he is serious in his intentions and that he wants to marry me. I was not feeling good that he is still married on Gurneet but giving me promises to marry, I asked him to prove that he is serious and to introduce to his family. He introduced me to Sonia Chawla.

End of 2016, Darshan Singh Bagga said that his divorce is moving slowly and we anyway going to get married thus we can easily start living together in Thane (where he has his office), he also said that his mother and other sisters completely supporting him in that decision.I came to stay with him in Thane for 3 months, his mother Khushwant Kaur Bagga and sisters were coming to our house every week. Simultaneously I read Darshan’s divorce related documents and realized that the story he told me is very much different from the reality, and that his wife is not a monster but a victim of his emotions. 

When my visa got over I came back to Kazakhstan in a very skeptical mood. It was beginning of 2017. I told Darshan Singh Bagga that I’m not planning to come back to India to live with him because I feel very insecure knowing the real story of his relationships with his wife is different from what he said to me. Darshan Singh Bagga didn’t want me to leave him, and came to Kazakhstan, met my parents and told them that he wants to marry me. I believed that he will be acting differently with me comparing to his wife, that he loves me and we will have bright future together. 

In 4 months after he met my parents he unexpectedly got divorce. I was the happiest girl ever. I asked when we both can move forward with our plans, and was surprised to hear that before we move forward he wants few months to enjoy his freedom. I agreed. 

In October 2017, we mutually decided that I will move to India, we will live together with his mother in Lokhandwala, Andheri (W) and will plan our engagement. My parents were not happy that I will be staying there without any commitments and social status, but he made good impression on them therefore they thought everything will be fine. I came to Mumbai in December 2017 and stayed till April 2018. I was working all these months (I am Project Development Director in international organization, and I told my boss that going to get engaged thus they agreed to let me work from India), I did not ask Darshan Singh Bagga or his family for any financial support. When I reached Mumbai, Darshan Singh Bagga told me that we won’t live with his mother, because he is used to stay alone and overall doesn’t want to stay with her (later on I found out that he lied to me even about staying with his mother. She was supportive of me living with him in Thane, but she didn’t want her community know the fact of us living together as a husband and wife without official marriage. Darshan Singh Bagga confessed that he was lying to me when he said that we will stay with mother, cause didn’t want me to change my mind and not to come staying with him). 

From December to April, we lived together, I was taking care of the house, of Darshan Singh Bagga, weekend we were in his mother’s house where I took care of her as well: I made her bed, cleaned utensils, cooked food. I was happy to do that cause I foolishly thought that I’m a part of Bagga’s family. Everything was good except that Darshan Singh Bagga prohibited me to post and share any our joint pictures, he said that he will decide when to tell people about us, he didn’t want to introduce me to many people. That worried me, cause after 3 years of waiting his divorce I thought he will be very happy to show to everyone that he is having me who was supporting him in all his bad moments. 

In April 2018, I raised the topic about our future. Darshan Singh Bagga said that in July 2018 we will get engaged and in October 2018 we will marry. One day before leaving we came to his mothers house, and I wanted to share news about engagement but Darshan Singh Bagga was rudely told me that he is not so closed to his mother thus not going to tell her anything in advance and not wanting me to open my mouth. I was upset and crying, his mother came and said that she supports her son whatever he does. I left India. And, Darshan Singh Bagga turned to be very rigid and rude, his family stopped all communications with me. I was very surprised, couldn’t understand what is going on. I talked to Darshan Singh Bagga and he said that all the time hi lied to me and didn’t want to marry just wanted to have nice time pass especially when he was in divorcing process.  

His mother and sisters knew that he is playing with me and not going to marry, but they were supporting him same as they did when he was throwing his wife Gurneet out of the house. In addition his sister recommended me to cry for one week, she said after that I will accept the situation and feel better, in addition will give a chance to Darshan Singh Bagga to meet someone else. 

 I’m 34 right now, not married, with no kids. I wanted to have family and Darshan Singh Bagga knowing that gave me false promises and hope. He took my 4 years of life and left me with nothing except broken heart and destroyed psycho system. And now I left without anything because Darshan Singh Bagga supported by his mother was playing with me and time passing. It was very comfortable for Darshan Singh Bagga and his mother to have me who is taking care of him, not asking for any commitments and trusting each word. When Darshan’s father was alive he was teaching him how to be and act as a human, to respect woman and care about wife, unfortunately he is not there anymore, and Darshan’s mother is very happy that her little son is near her and no one interfere their relationships, that’s is why she erased me from her life so easily not even remembering how I cared about her. How long that family will use and torture girls, and who will stop them? I have never ever met so hypocritical and cynic family who went to temple 3 times a day and after that make their ugly things towards others.

Mariya